Category: Relationships

Blog: Personal Responsibility: An Interview with Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Blog: Personal Responsibility: An Interview with Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Question: How would you define personal responsibility?

Isa: Personal responsibility is a process of becoming more self-aware, understanding your motivations, your intentions, and the effect your actions and thoughts have on you and those around you. It involves a willingness to contemplate the consequences of your emotional responses, and the ability to recognize when those expressions are harmful and when they are beneficial.

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Blog: Boundaries: A Case Study

Blog: Boundaries: A Case Study

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

When people come into my office with relationship problems, they do not always realize they’re dealing with boundary issues. Many people think if they’re being treated badly in relationship, they must be doing something wrong. This is generally due to a lack of understanding about boundaries, and this lack of understanding usually stems from a place of unworthiness. The person being mistreated believes they’re flawed in some way, and makes compromises to stay in relationships where they are suffering. Boundary issues almost always arise when a person doesn’t feel lovable, and consequently, they’re willing to do almost anything to get another person’s approval. Because they don’t love themselves, they are dependent on others to be sources of love and validation.

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Video: Depth Hypnosis: Powerful Healing for Common Issues

Video: Depth Hypnosis: Powerful Healing for Common Issues

In this conversation with Laura Chandler, Isa Gucciardi describes many of the common issues people seek help with, including relationships, autoimmune issues, phobias, anxiety, and spiritual crisis. Isa also talks about a common phenomenon known as the “Inner critic” and how her book, Coming to Peace, offers insight on the inner critic and how to heal it. This interview takes place at the Sacred Stream Center in Berkeley, CA.

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Blog: Ask Isa: Finding Meaning in Divorce

Blog: Ask Isa: Finding Meaning in Divorce

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Question: I just got divorced and it’s brought up a lot of shame for me. I feel like I failed in my marriage. How do I deal with the shame?

Isa: Whenever you have shame, you have blame. It sounds like there might be an internal conflict going on, where one part of you is blaming you and one part of you is receiving the messages of blame and feeling ashamed. I would recommend sitting down and exploring the part of yourself that is making you feel ashamed.

One way to do this is to think about all of the expectations you had going into the marriage. Consider the expectations you had of yourself, the expectations you had of the other person, and the expectations you had of the marriage itself and what you hoped it was going to do for you. For instance, if you got married because you wanted to feel validated by your family, ask yourself why you didn’t feel validated before you were married. You have to honestly examine your motivations for entering the marriage to discover what is behind these expectations. As you become clear about what your expectations were, you’re going to see how you respond when your expectations are not met.

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Article: Who is Tara?

Article: Who is Tara?

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

One of the oldest Stone Age artifacts that has been recovered is a small statue of a full-bodied woman carved from limestone. The statue was named the Woman of Willendorf, after the small village where it was found in southern Austria, and is estimated to be around thirty thousand years old. Many similar statues dating to the early Stone Age have been discovered throughout Europe and beyond. Expressions of the feminine have been found in the art, mythologies and spiritual practices of many ancient cultures, often represented in the form of female deities and goddesses.

Ancient images of Quan Yin, the goddess of mercy, have been found in China, Korea, Thailand and throughout southern Asia. Pachamama, the goddess of the Earth and time, has long been depicted in the traditions of the Andes Mountains of South America in stories and art. Long before Mary, the embodiment of the great feminine in Christianity, Middle Eastern and African cultures revered Isis, who presided over the other gods, life, and death. Images of Kunapipi and Eingana, the mother goddesses of the Australian aboriginal cultures, have been found in rock art dating back at least ten thousand years.

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Article: Mothering and Matriarchy

Article: Mothering and Matriarchy

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Matriarchal societies are organized by maternal priorities, meaning all members are cared for in a nurturing and supportive way. To create communities rooted in these values, both men and women must change their fundamental relationship to mothering and motherhood.This shift must go beyond the rhetoric of early feminists who decried the second-class position mothering placed on women, and who sought to liberate women from the prison of the culturally-defined institution of motherhood. Instead, we must recognize the power of motherhood independent of any cultural value systems where mothering becomes a pawn of dominance and ownership. To do this, we must understand how our inability to nurture ourselves and others has weakened us, both on a societal and an individual level.

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Blog: Ask Isa: Can Depth Hypnosis Help Me Get Over My Breakup?

Blog: Ask Isa: Can Depth Hypnosis Help Me Get Over My Breakup?

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Question: I broke up with my boyfriend a while ago, but the pain still feels overwhelming. I’m not moving on at all. Part of me wants to be back in a relationship and part of me is relieved it’s over. Can Depth Hypnosis help me get over my breakup and move on?

Isa: What you’re describing sounds like an internal split, where part of you wants to be in the relationship and part of you does not. The tension and lack of resolution between these two parts is probably what’s making it hard for you to move on. Journaling can be a very helpful tool for understanding these two conflicting parts of yourself. For example, you can list all the reasons you want to be in the relationship, and then list all the reasons you are relieved to be out of the relationship. As you do this, the position of each part will become clear.

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Special Announcement: Upcoming Courses for Parents at Sacred Stream

Special Announcement: Upcoming Courses for Parents at Sacred Stream

Sacred Stream is committed to supporting parents in bringing greater consciousness into their relationships with their children, their partners, and themselves. All of our Empowered Living courses are designed to help you get the most from your everyday experience.  Several upcoming courses are especially helpful for parents.

Conscious Parenting will help you connect more deeply with your intentions and values as a parent and respond to whatever arises with greater self-understanding and grace. Tracking Spirit in the Birth Environment provides an opportunity to connect to powerful resources for giving birth or integrate the birth experience you already had. The Path of Service strongly connects you with your own needs and how to address them so that you can maintain your energy level while caring for others. And if you find, as you parent your children, that how you were parented is coming up as something you would like to understand better, Relationship and Karma will help you do that.

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On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Helen Palmer: Understanding Yourself and the Others in Your Life

On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Helen Palmer: Understanding Yourself and the Others in Your Life

Diane Solomon, host of A Meeting of the Ways on KKUP, and Helen Palmer, bestselling author of The Enneagram, discuss how The Enneagram can help you in understanding yourself and the others in your life

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Video: The Nature of Universal Power

Video: The Nature of Universal Power

Isa Gucciardi discusses the differences between universal power and personal power and the interplay between the two. She discusses the play of negative intention and how it impacts the energy exchanges that form the basis of relationships between people. Isa is the author of Coming to Peace, the Founding Director of the Foundation of the Sacred Stream, and the creator of the ground-breaking therapeutic model, Depth Hypnosis. This talk takes place at the Sacred Stream Center in Berkeley, CA.

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On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.: Relationships & Soul Mates, Valentines Day and the Spring Equinox

On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.: Relationships & Soul Mates, Valentines Day and the Spring Equinox

Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D., speaks with Diane Solomon, host of A Meeting of the Ways, on the very ancient connection between Valentine’s Day and the Spring Equinox – and how both celebrations have everything to do with relationship.

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On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.: Tools for the Thanksgiving Holiday

On the Air: A Meeting of the Ways with Diane Solomon and Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.: Tools for the Thanksgiving Holiday

Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D., speaks with Diane Solomon, host of A Meeting of the Ways on KKUP on the topic of Tools for the Thanksgiving Holiday: Managing Challenging Relationships and Understanding the True Nature of Forgiveness.

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Blog: The Two Truths: Finding Meaning in Difficult Situations

Blog: The Two Truths: Finding Meaning in Difficult Situations

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

In a recent dinner conversation with friends, the Buddhist concept of the Two Truths came up. In Buddhist philosophy, the Two Truths offers an explanation of the nature of reality. The discussion wound around to how I introduced adapted elements of the Two Truths to students in the Depth Hypnosis Foundation Course. This adaptation is a bit like an overview, making the concept a little easier to grasp and apply in a Western context.

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Special Announcement: Sacred Stream’s Summer Parenting Series

Special Announcement: Sacred Stream’s Summer Parenting Series

Sacred Stream is committed to helping build more conscious families. Our Empowered Living programs are all designed to help you understand yourself and others better. This summer, our Summer Parenting series can help you begin at the beginning – to understand birth from a new point of view with Tracking Spirit in the Birth Environment. And help you all the way to the end – by offering you resources to help you through all the years of parenting with the Conscious Parenting workshop.

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Article: Relationship as a Vehicle for Consciousness

Article: Relationship as a Vehicle for Consciousness

By Isa Gucciardi, Ph.D.

Relationship forms the core of our experience as humans. We define ourselves and are defined by the nature of our relating. The Buddhist concept of interdependence affirms that nothing exists independently. Everything exists interdependently. In relationship, we do not and cannot exist independently of one another.

It is through relationship that we come to know ourselves. It is through relating that we hold up a mirror to others for them to come to know themselves. Others do the same for us, providing us with information about ourselves that we could not see without the lens of relating. In this way, relationship provides us with a path of revelation. As we learn more about ourselves, our experience takes on richer meaning.

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